Nice weekend,all the kids are bringing there families (and food i think),Wife is happy.I can hardly wate for Monday,already got my spot on the chesterfield reserved .Have a good weekend everybody. Ed
and still on the Westcoast and not to far from Clinton a safe and happy thanksgiving to everyone..and if we think how lucky we are to have been been born in this great country, as we look around at all the turmoil and violence in so many Countrys,the murders of women and children all over, so many children living in squalar...the lonely, abused and homeless even in our communitys ..when I look around me I have much to thankfull for I am truly blessed and remember to do the dishes and clean the kitchen for your wife eh!!!
Thats the way it is here as well the ladies cook a great meal and the guys and kids clean up the kitchen and get to eat a little more while doing it. Ed
Happy Turkey day to everyone...
Heading out for turkey today at my kids place in the dirty shwa, SIL is deep frying the bird.
Tomorrow a whack of family at ours for another dinner.
and still on the Westcoast and not to far from Clinton a safe and happy thanksgiving to everyone..and if we think how lucky we are to have been been born in this great country, as we look around at all the turmoil and violence in so many Countrys,the murders of women and children all over, so many children living in squalar...the lonely, abused and homeless even in our communitys ..when I look around me I have much to thankfull for I am truly blessed and remember to do the dishes and clean the kitchen for your wife eh!!!
Well said Chuck
We all just need to pause and think how lucky we are. We really do have a lot to be thankful for.
Amen Chuck! It's nice to see one of your comments again. I for one am very thankful for what I have, my family and friends...
Thanksgiving diner is usually held at my place, but this year for the first time, no cooking and cleaning (woohoo), one of my daughters took it upon herself to do the gathering at her place. I'm good with that, I'll even help the son-in law clean up, well... (a little bit).
For me it "SUCKS watching all the neighbours have family in for dinner while I'm having a "grilled cheese" sandwich!! being alone on a Holiday wknd. is NOT NICE!! Sorry for the downer but thats how I feel at the moment!!!
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For me it "SUCKS watching all the neighbours have family in for dinner while I'm having a "grilled cheese" sandwich!! being alone on a Holiday wknd. is NOT NICE!! Sorry for the downer but thats how I feel at the moment!!!
Happy Thanksgiving Pete and all Ontario Rodders folk!
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For me it "SUCKS watching all the neighbours have family in for dinner while I'm having a "grilled cheese" sandwich!! being alone on a Holiday wknd. is NOT NICE!! Sorry for the downer but thats how I feel at the moment!!!
Sorry, no sympathy here, be thankful you can have a "grilled cheese sandwich"! My wife is spending the afternoon with a lady she befriended in a nursing home while visiting as part of the Therapy Dog Program. This lady, I will call her Judy [not her real name], has MS, she can basically only move her head, she can't do anything for herself, she is only 54 years old! She has a hard time speaking, most of the attendants can't seem to understand her, so most of the time she is ignored. My wife will occasionally arrange for a Wheel Chair Bus and take Judy out shopping for a couple of hours for some clothes and special treats. Linda then has to alter the clothing to make it easier for Judy to wear it. Judy would give anything to be able to make herself a "grilled cheese sandwich"!
If you don't like being alone, get out and spend some time with a shut-in, or help volunteer to make Thanksgiving supper for those less fortunate than you! You might be surprised how good it feels to make to make someone happy, even for just a short time!
Well said Bruce.If you are down there are lots of opertunities to make yourself and someone else feel a little better in our various communities or you can sit home and whine.You get back what you give in many wonderful ways. Ed
Sorry, no sympathy here, be thankful you can have a "grilled cheese sandwich"! My wife is spending the afternoon with a lady she befriended in a nursing home while visiting as part of the Therapy Dog Program. This lady, I will call her Judy [not her real name], has MS, she can basically only move her head, she can't do anything for herself, she is only 54 years old! She has a hard time speaking, most of the attendants can't seem to understand her, so most of the time she is ignored. My wife will occasionally arrange for a Wheel Chair Bus and take Judy out shopping for a couple of hours for some clothes and special treats. Linda then has to alter the clothing to make it easier for Judy to wear it. Judy would give anything to be able to make herself a "grilled cheese sandwich"!
If you don't like being alone, get out and spend some time with a shut-in, or help volunteer to make Thanksgiving supper for those less fortunate than you! You might be surprised how good it feels to make to make someone happy, even for just a short time!
Thank you Bruce for your posting and a BIG pat on the back to your wife for caring for others. We all seem to forget "It is better to give than to receive" Your posting is the real meaning of Thanksgiving.
For me it "SUCKS watching all the neighbours have family in for dinner while I'm having a "grilled cheese" sandwich!! being alone on a Holiday wknd. is NOT NICE!! Sorry for the downer but thats how I feel at the moment!!!
Sorry, no sympathy here, be thankful you can have a "grilled cheese sandwich"! My wife is spending the afternoon with a lady she befriended in a nursing home while visiting as part of the Therapy Dog Program. This lady, I will call her Judy [not her real name], has MS, she can basically only move her head, she can't do anything for herself, she is only 54 years old! She has a hard time speaking, most of the attendants can't seem to understand her, so most of the time she is ignored. My wife will occasionally arrange for a Wheel Chair Bus and take Judy out shopping for a couple of hours for some clothes and special treats. Linda then has to alter the clothing to make it easier for Judy to wear it. Judy would give anything to be able to make herself a "grilled cheese sandwich"!
If you don't like being alone, get out and spend some time with a shut-in, or help volunteer to make Thanksgiving supper for those less fortunate than you! You might be surprised how good it feels to make to make someone happy, even for just a short time!
Although I do have some sympathy, not great to spend Thanks Giving alone, or any Holiday for that matter. I spent it alone myself also, but for good reasons, we had plans on spending it with one of my daughters (she volunteered). My wife (Brenda) and I dedicate a large amount of our time helping/volunteering etc...as much as we can (sometimes maybe too much).
One of our neighbours, an elder, for which we have been clearing snow, mowing her lawn etc..., has not been well for the last few weeks, well Sunday morning she had a massive heart attack and rushed to the hospital, and requested to have my wife at her side.
No need for guessing, I drove Brenda to the hospital, to be by her side.
My girls were not disappointed we didn't show, I suppose because they know us. We can have a family dinner any other time.
For me it "SUCKS watching all the neighbours have family in for dinner while I'm having a "grilled cheese" sandwich!! being alone on a Holiday wknd. is NOT NICE!! Sorry for the downer but thats how I feel at the moment!!!
Sorry, no sympathy here, be thankful you can have a "grilled cheese sandwich"! My wife is spending the afternoon with a lady she befriended in a nursing home while visiting as part of the Therapy Dog Program. This lady, I will call her Judy [not her real name], has MS, she can basically only move her head, she can't do anything for herself, she is only 54 years old! She has a hard time speaking, most of the attendants can't seem to understand her, so most of the time she is ignored. My wife will occasionally arrange for a Wheel Chair Bus and take Judy out shopping for a couple of hours for some clothes and special treats. Linda then has to alter the clothing to make it easier for Judy to wear it. Judy would give anything to be able to make herself a "grilled cheese sandwich"!
If you don't like being alone, get out and spend some time with a shut-in, or help volunteer to make Thanksgiving supper for those less fortunate than you! You might be surprised how good it feels to make to make someone happy, even for just a short time!
Well said Model A , although i have been in duelquadpetes place before , xmas is coming , hope he does what he can to not be alone,, go help serve dinners at a homeless shelter , model A guy, my girl as well spent most of weekend with a older couple who s health is declining fast , the old guy has multiple cancers but he doesnt no , his wife has her own issues ,,this is a private job on the side and my girl reduced her rate alot ( yikes ) but i understand y she does it , the couple children are so greatfull to have some 1 that cares about what she does... we ll be old some day . lets hope theres people like your wife and my girlfriend out there for us ... the older people have a lot of interesting stories , you just gotta ask ..
Xmas is just around the corner people , take the time to just say hi , go serve a meal at a shelter , drop off food or a few presents at your local fire dept , times are hard for alot of people , we can make a little difference , take care..........
Thanks to Gazoo & Hemikev and your spouses for your time and efforts at volunteering to help the less fortunate. Volunteers don't look for medals and recognition, all they need is a smile and a hug from a grateful recipient.
Life can change in a heartbeat, as Gazoo said "appreciate what you have"!
Thanks to Gazoo & Hemikev and your spouses for your time and efforts at volunteering to help the less fortunate. Volunteers don't look for medals and recognition, all they need is a smile and a hug from a grateful recipient. Life can change in a heartbeat, as Gazoo said "appreciate what you have"!
you are so right model A... not long ago i had grandparents .and a dad ..their gone .my mothers got cancer who knows how long she has..take time to vosit or just a call ..talk to a stranger...hold a door ppen..goes a long way
there is a guy named dave who owns a black '64 gto who frequents the uxbridge cruise. he lost him mom (who he lived with) not long ago and never married/no kids. hes north of port perry just off 12 in greenbank. im betting hes in the situation you are in and i dont think he lives that far from you .... you guys should get to know each other/hang out/keep each other company. you do have '64 pontiacs in common.
-- Edited by not as drunk as you thinkle peep I am on Tuesday 15th of October 2013 09:40:00 PM
Thanks a lot!!! I wasn't looking for sympathy, just posted my feelings at the time. I went from a 'high' after returning from W.V. to the bottom as a wave of emotions flooded over me on Sun. You have no idea how a "spit up changes your life. Kind of hard on a sun afternoon to go out & volunteer at a Non existant food bank, a volunteer fire dept. that doesn't do those things & nearest retirement home [miles away] doesn't have volunteers due to Ins. reasons [thanks for calling] I recieved one PM from a member saying that things would get better & I appreciated that, as for the "COOK BOOK" comment, try cooking for 1 & eat it on your own for a length of time, it ain't good!! This REALLY HURT, I'll decide wether I stay on here or not!!! seeing as I know where I stand from one comment at a low time on a Holiday wknd.!!!!!
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Pete, things DO GET BETTER! I been there, i lost both my wife and oldest son, so you are not ALONE!! Many of us have had ups and downs, and along the way, things do change and get better.
Like Sasquach said Pete, "things do get better"! I've been where you are, 15 years living alone after a "split", barely a cent to my name! Things got a whole lot better almost 30 years ago!
I have visited too many unfortunate people in nursing homes with the Therapy Dog Program, people that can't move a muscle but their brain still functions, people who are bedridden and their families don't come to visit them! Both of our Therapy Dogs died earlier this year, but up until then we used to go and spend a few minutes with as many patients as we could on Xmas mornings, not to sympathize, but to let the dogs bring a little joy into their lives. My wife had been visiting nursing homes with the dogs every week for the last 14 years; because of work commitments, I was only able to visit for a few years. Between the two dogs, they had well over a 1000 hours of visiting time! We are hoping our new dog will become a Therapy Dog as well, they are either born with it or they aren't!
Please don't leave the site if it was me that hurt your feelings, but don't expect an apology from me either.
For me it "SUCKS watching all the neighbours have family in for dinner while I'm having a "grilled cheese" sandwich!! being alone on a Holiday wknd. is NOT NICE!! Sorry for the downer but thats how I feel at the moment!!!
Pete, this is a genuine invitation to come on down next year. Open to all of you of course. Each Thanksgiving for the past 15 years we've hosted a craft show- O'Shavings Country Craft Show - on our property. We average a hundred or so Crafters and see about 20,000 peopple over 3 days.
My folks live next door to us and they've been a big part of the show since we started, Mom and Dad would spend the weekend polishing his apples and selling (actually giving more away) while they chatted with folks.
Dad was diagnosed with Cancer 12 years ago, at that time given 24 - 72 hours to live. After allowing himself to be used a a guinea pig for 7 weeks to see how his cancer reacted to different treatments he came home to spend his last days with his family. Although the Dr's aren't sure why, he survived 10 years.
Two years ago he acquired leukemia. In a hospital bed in his own living room at Thanksgiving he kept an eye on things, he waited until the day after the show was over then he slipped away. Thanksgiving is not the weekend we remember that Dad passed away but rather the weekend we celelbrate his life.
Each year there are always a few Crafters with no dinner plans so we put extra places at our table and they join us. We'd be happy to have you join us too Pete.
Pete. I dont think meant to insult u..some simply said lots out there to do on holidays if u dont want to be alone..i tp have been in ur shoes...and for the record..a friend of friend met his wife while preparing food at a shelter kitchen..be kinda kool if that hsppened.. Habitat for humanity is a nother place..women loke men who know their way around duct tape. Lol. Lots of groups out there pete...but u gotta leave the house and get involved..love just might smack u in the side of the head...take care.
I live alone, but have lots of friends. I cook small portions. Sometimes it all doesn't get eaten, but the critters outside are well fed.
I have spent many Christmas' alone. I am used to it.
I have four kids that I can call if I feel the need.
You just have to get motovated, get out and circulate.
There's more to life than watching TV.
For me it "SUCKS watching all the neighbours have family in for dinner while I'm having a "grilled cheese" sandwich!! being alone on a Holiday wknd. is NOT NICE!! Sorry for the downer but thats how I feel at the moment!!!
Model A Guy wrote:
Sorry, no sympathy here, be thankful you can have a "grilled cheese sandwich"!
god help us if your day job includes the task of 'talking someone down off the ledge' .......... wow
god help us if your day job includes the task of 'talking someone down off the ledge' .......... wow
I really think you need to read the rest of his comment if you had you would have realized there was much more to what he was trying to say..But when you just pick a couple words from the the intent you totally distorted his words.. I think his post had much more good advice than you seen and I do think it was quite fitting and showed empathy with a positive suggestion
he also said this in that same paragraph..if you had read that far...
"If you don't like being alone, get out and spend some time with a shut-in, or help volunteer to make Thanksgiving supper for those less fortunate than you! You might be surprised how good it feels to make to make someone happy, even for just a short time! "
Some times the truth hurts a bit but to quote Grumpy-Glen's..body works..
when a man is hungry feed him and every time he gets hungry he will find you..
teach him how to take care of himself and he can grow from being hungry or lonely but in the end we each have a cross to bear and we have to reach down, pull up our socks and get on with life ..It really is up to us to move on ..life is too short for pity partys..I am sure we have all been down a dark road but there is light if we search for it..
guess im the only one pictureing the guy on the loud speaker (talking to a potential jumper) saying stuff like 'i dont give a crap about your problems ive got my own you idiot ..... if you jump im gonna have a hell of a mess to clean up and thats going to spoil my plans for tonite. grow up shut up and climb the hell down you dumass'.
oh well not the first time ive been ahead of the rest of the class
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